In this post I share takeaways, strategies, and resources from a conversation with women in technology on belonging, authenticity, and support. Access the resources and watch the webinar.
In a recent session on belonging and authenticity with women in technology, I had the privilege of engaging with a group of dynamic professionals who shared their experiences, challenges, and insights. This blog post delves into the core themes we discussed, aiming to inspire others in similar journeys and foster a deeper understanding of the importance of belonging and authenticity in the workplace.
Key Takeaways from the Session
The Essence of Belonging
Belonging is not just about being present; it’s about feeling valued and included. In our session, several participants shared personal stories highlighting the difference between merely being a part of a team and truly belonging. For instance, Surbhi Taori recounted how being perceived as overly cheerful led to assumptions about her seriousness and potential, which she had to navigate by choosing authenticity over conformity. Her experience underscores a critical point: true belonging allows individuals to express themselves fully without fear of judgment or negative consequences.
Authenticity in the Workplace
Authenticity involves bringing your whole self to work—your values, personality, and identity. Yet, many women find themselves tempering their authenticity to fit into corporate cultures that may not fully embrace diversity. Devon Jones mentioned the disparity in how assertive behaviors are received based on one’s appearance, while Fantasi Nicole discussed the unfair labels she’s faced for simply voicing her opinions. These narratives reveal the ongoing struggle for women to balance authenticity with professional expectations.
The Challenge of Assimilation
Many women feel pressured to assimilate into dominant workplace cultures, often at the expense of their authenticity. During our discussion, Michelle Tieder shared her military background, where confidence and assertiveness are expected and respected in men but often misinterpreted in women. This double standard forces many women to navigate a delicate balance between authenticity and assimilation, striving to maintain their true selves while meeting external expectations.
Supporting Each Other
A recurring theme in our session was the importance of supporting fellow women in the workplace. Participants shared various ways they have uplifted their colleagues, from offering mentorship and advocacy to simply being a listening ear. This mutual support is crucial in creating environments where everyone feels they belong and can be their authentic selves. Fantasi Nicole highlighted a powerful quote by Brittney Cooper: “Individual transformation is neither a substitute for nor a harbinger of structural transformation.” This reminds us that while individual efforts are vital, systemic change is necessary for lasting impact.
Creating Inclusive Environments
To foster true belonging and authenticity, organizations must actively work to create inclusive environments. This includes addressing biases, reevaluating policies, and promoting a culture that values diversity. Kathleen Fitzpatrick emphasized the need for programs that go beyond “fixing” women to addressing broader cultural and structural issues. As she aptly put it, “It’s NOT about ‘fixing’ the women!” but about transforming the systems that constrain them.
Practical Strategies and Resources
We all deserve to belong, and we can be very skilled at belonging as women in technology. But just in case there is a part of you that doesn’t feel whole at work, even a tiny whisper of doubt, you are not alone. If you sometimes feel like you are performing, adapting, or assimilating in inauthentic ways, you are not alone. We get so busy striving and surviving that our focus may become myopic, losing sight of ourselves.
Historically marginalized and excluded populations face tremendous challenges in technology, and sometimes we don’t even realize how we feel until we spend time with others experiencing the same.
Indeed, the culture and climate must change to be more welcoming for minoritized folks, but in the meantime, here are some specific strategies and resources:
Find community and belonging where you can. Connect with people, share your story, and listen to others’ stories.Â
If you feel you fit in “perfectly fine,” be thoughtful of the fact that others may not. We don’t want to accidentally be complicit in perpetuating the dominant norms just because they work for us.Â
Identify, seek out and nurture relationships with Allies & Advocates, Champions & Cheerleaders. Recognize who the “Queen Bees & Wannabes” are and reset your expectations and boundaries.
Moving Forward
As we concluded our session, the consensus was clear: the journey toward belonging and authenticity is ongoing and requires collective effort. Women in technology must continue to support one another, advocate for inclusive practices, and challenge the status quo. By doing so, we can create workplaces where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued.
Final Thoughts
Belonging and authenticity are not just buzzwords; they are essential components of a healthy, productive workplace. By fostering these values, we can ensure that all individuals, regardless of their background or identity, can thrive and contribute to their fullest potential. Let us commit to this journey together, supporting one another and championing the changes needed to create truly inclusive environments.
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