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Fight is an Act of Self-preservation
It is a fear state where you confront the threat to stand up and assert yourself.
Healthy Response
- Assertion
- Solid boundaries
Unhealthy Response
- Walls
- Ultra-independence
- Aggression
- Yelling
Flight response corresponds with avoidant behavior.
Healthy Response
You are discerning in stressful situations and disengage within limits
Unhealthy Response
- Isolation
- Avoidance
- Overly Busy
Freeze is the equivalent of temporary paralysis and disconnecting with your body to prevent further stress.
Healthy Response
You slow down and appraise the situation to determine next steps.
Unhealthy Response
- Dissociation
- Literally freezing, feeling spaced out or detached from reality
- Emotional numbness
Fawning is about people-pleasing and engaging in pacifying behaviors.
Healthy Response
- Dignity
- Value-alignment
- Boundaries
Unhealthy Response
- People-pleasing
- Assimilation
- Foregoing boundaries
- Deference
- Overly apologetic
- You can’t express how you feel
